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Love Life#21

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We all can wait, aren’t we?

The matter is, are we waiting with good attitude or with a lot of grumbles?

Everyday, we are waiting.

Waiting clients for appointment,
Waiting for bus to return home,
Waiting for friend to have dinner,
Waiting for parent to fetch us,
Waiting for teacher to come in,
Waiting your team mate who are slow,
Waiting the food in restaurant,
Waiting message/email reply from someone.

It’s even worst, when we are waiting while we are lacking time.

So, every time we end up with tonnes of grumbles and complains.

Consequently, it affects our relationship with others.

To prevent this situation to happen, we all do have responsibility.

We need to be punctual, it’s very important for every event or occasion in life, because we are stealing other’s time if we are late.

If we are late with good reason, then we shall be accountable, and honestly inform the person who is waiting that you will be late. This would reduce the conflict and misunderstanding.

If you are the person who are waiting, try not to think negatively about the person you are waiting, as a negative thought will multiply tonnes of negative thoughts.

We need to be considerate, and think of the big picture, that in order to make the meeting or appointment successful, we need to have good attitude. It’s one of the rules to maintain a healthy relationship with others.

Hence, let’s us learn to be patience starts from today and you can make a difference in your life.

Let’s Live Life and Love Life together. Cheers!

Success Secret: Change Your Internal Dialogue

Everyone in business knows that words are important. Some companies spend millionsof dollars to get the perfect wording for their corporate, marketing, and sales messages.

Since words are important, it’s absolutely crazy to be careless when you’re communicating with the most important person in your business world: you!

Just as the words you use to describe your company to customers predetermine how successful your company will be, the words you use when you talk to yourself (meaning in your own mind) predetermine how successful you will be.

If your internal dialogue constantly uses words that leech your energy, you’ll always be fighting an uphill battle. What’s more, that negative self-talk has a habit of slipping into the words you say to others, which can cast a pall on everything you do.

By contrast, if your internal dialogue uses words that uplift you, you’re greasing the wheels to become more successful. What’s more, a positive internal dialogue is inevitably echoed in your day-to-day speech, making those around you more success-prone, too.

How to Change Your Internal Dialogue

If you really want to be successful, you’ll spend the extra effort to edit your internal dialogue so that it supports your goals. This is not at all difficult, and here’s the basic recipe:

1. Listen to Your Thoughts 

As you go through the day, be mindful of the words that you use, in your own mind, to describe your experiences and those around you.

2. Write Them Down 

Recording your internal dialogue on paper will help you see more objectively the words you use, because you take them out of the context of your habitual mental use of them.

3. Categorize Each Term 

At the end of the day, mark each word or term as positive, neutral, or negative relative to what you’re trying to achieve.

4. Substitute More Powerful Words

For negative words, devise neutral alternatives. For neutral words, devise positive alternatives. For positive words, find alternative words that are even most positive.

5. Post the Alternatives Where You Can See Them

This is just a simple list with the old words in the first column pointing to the new words in the second column.

6. Make the Substitution Habitual

Whenever the old words show up in your internal dialogue, consciously substitute the alternative word. Continue until the substitution is automatic.

Here’s a quick example, taken from the world of sales:

  • Rejection->Speedbump
  • Frustration->Nervous Energy
  • Afraid->Excited
  • Failure->Sales Lesson
  • Boss->Coach
  • Feeling Good->Feeling Fantastic!
  • Disappointed->Surprised
  • Cold calling->Dialing for Dollars

The more time you spend transforming your internal dialogue in this way, the more your thought processes will reinforce your quest for success.

By Geoffrey James

When It’s Time to Give Up?

“What do you mean when it’s time to give up? I will NEVER give up!” Slow down there Rocky. Although I am a big believer and practitioner of the whole never give up motto, there will come a time in your life when it would be better to just give up. Ignorance is the person who keeps going and going and does not know when to stop even when what he is doing is completely wrong for him.

Are you considered a quitter when you give up? That depends on what you are giving up on. Now I’m not talking about quitting a bad habit, I’m actually talking about quitting your pursuit of a goal. I’m sure you have been told that in order to become successful, you must persevere, fight, stand up whenever you fall, and march forward until the end. I say those things to people all the time, so why am I telling you now that sometimes it is actually better to quit? The reason is because in certain cases, you could only go forward if you go back.

Sometimes you will be putting a lot of time and effort in achieving a goal to find out one day that your strategy is totally wrong. You could be achieving the same results in half the time had you been focusing on doing the more important things.

Let’s say your goal was to lose weight. You then set a goal to do 1000 sit up a day. After about 1 month of doing this, you realize that you have been disciplined enough to hit your goal of 1000 sit ups a day, however, you aren’t getting any closer to your main goal of losing weight. This is called focusing on a secondary goal, which sometimes is the wrong strategy.

We sometimes get so focused on a secondary goal that we lose focus on the primary goal. I see this with sales people all the time. Their main goal is to make money but they often find their focus on hitting some new position within the sales department and when that doesn’t happen, they feel like a big failure. The goal never was to hit some position; the goal was to make money whether with this company or another company.

Would it make sense, in this case, for a sales person to quit the job if his goal of making a certain amount of money just wasn’t happening? His managers would probably call him a quitter, but his goal is to make money. If he can obtain that goal through a different source, then quitting would actually be the smart thing to do.

So when is it time to give up? When what you are doing no longer makes sense in respects to achieving your main goal. Sometimes it will make more sense to give up what you are doing and start on a different path towards the same goal.

Some people will spend their entire lives on a path to a certain goal only to find out in the end that the path they took was the wrong one. There is no shame in giving up on a path you are taking to your goal as long as you always aim to reach your goal. There’s no point in staying on a path that will lead you to nowhere.

By Kevin Ngo

Tips to Stop Procrastination

Being able to stop procrastinating can completely start to change your life around for the better. Procrastination occurs when you have something to do, you know you should be doing it, but for one reason or another, you’re not doing it. This can be a habit that can literally destroy your life if you don’t take control of it. This article will be about why we procrastinate as well as give you some tips to help you take action more often in order to achieve your goals and get done what needs to get done.

What Causes Procrastination?

Before you can stop procrastination, you first need to understand what causes it in the first place. It’s actually quite simple. The reason why we do or don’t do anything comes down to two things: Pain and Pleasure.

Everything we do comes down to either avoiding pain or gaining pleasure. Let me give you an example. Have you ever procrastinated on studying or writing a term paper? Of course you have. But why do we do this when we know it’s important? The reason is because we associate more pain to taking action than not taking action. Now what normally ends up happening after you have procrastinated to the last minute? I don’t know about you but no matter how much I would procrastinate on doing something, there will come a time when I will just bite the bullet and just get it done. The reason is because after a while, NOT getting that task done is more painful than just getting it done.

Understanding why you procrastinate will help you stop being a procrastinator. Think about the last time you put something off. Now ask yourself why you put it off. Chances are, the reason why you just didn’t get the job done was because you associated some type of pain to taking action. Now think about something you don’t have a problem doing like going out with your friends. The reason why you won’t put something like that off is because you associate pleasure to doing it.

How to Stop Procrastinating

Here are some steps to stop procrastination. The first thing you will want to do is to figure out what is causing you to associate pain to getting a task done. Let’s say you want to clean out the garage. Just thinking about it makes you shiver. Well, that’s the reason why you have been putting it off. It’s what you visualize in your mind that is causing you the pain. You haven’t actually done anything yet so in reality, you aren’t experiencing any pain.

This means you need to work on what you are focusing on in your mind. In this case, instead of thinking about how long cleaning the garage is going to take, focus on how great it would feel once it’s all cleaned up. Or you can focus on all the free time you will have after you get this task over with.

The point here is to get yourself to associate pleasure to getting the task done. When you can get yourself to look forward to taking action, you won’t procrastinate.

Another way you can stop procrastinating is to associate more pain to NOT taking action. Let’s say you need to get back into shape but you keep putting off going to the gym and no matter how much you try to tell yourself how great you will look if you get yourself to go to the gym, you still don’t go. In this case, you will need to focus on the pain of not getting into shape. Imagine how your body and health will be 5 years from now if you don’t start taking better care of yourself. Now imagine how you will look 10 years from now, 20 years from now.

The key to making this work is to actually feel the pain you would cause yourself by not taking action. Where would your life be 5, 10, or 20 years from now if you keep letting procrastination take the best of you? If you can make this experience intense enough, it will drive you to take immediate action.

Conclusion

There are other ways to stop procrastination but they all come down to either avoiding pain or gaining pleasure. If you are a guy, think about it. How far will guys go to impress a girl in hopes that the will get lucky? They will do things they never thought they can get themselves to do. How about if you’re a mom? How far will you go to keep your children from starving? Will you do anything, even work at a job you hate, just to give them what they need?

Knowing how to stop procrastination is the first step. The second and final step is to make taking action a habit. The more you can get yourself to immediate action, the less you will be inclined to procrastinate. Putting things off is just a habit. The more you do it, the more you will continue doing it.

In order to stop procrastinating, you will need to get in the habit of taking action regardless of whether you feel like it or not. Focusing on the pain of not following through or the pleasure of getting something done will work but sometimes, you will be too lazy to even focus on anything. This is where having the habit of taking immediate action will come into play.

When the choice comes down to getting something done and putting it off, you will get it done. This one habit, if you can develop it, will change your life. The alternative is reaching the end of your life and having nothing but regret. Develop the habit taking action and stop procrastinating and you will prevent that situation from happening.

Love Life#13

Love Life#13

In this world, everyday,

There are million of people living under poverty, starving and facing malnutrition.

There are million of people living under the rain of bullets and missiles, to fight for peace and justice.

There are million of people living under the fear of abused by parent and friends.

There are million of people crossing the line of death forth and back in the hospital.

There are million of people abandoned by parent and begging on the street to earn a meal.

There are million of people lost their home due to disaster stroke them.

There are million of unfortunate people in the corner of the world, striving for a chance to live, to see the sunlight of tomorrow, to get rid of the ‘unfair’ circumstances, without giving up.

And shall you complain about unfairness in your life?

When you want to complain, think of the unfortunate people.

Let’s Love Life together. Cheers!

Say YES to NO

When Henry Ward Beecher was a young boy in school, he learned a lesson in self confidence which he never forgot.

He was called upon to recite in front of the class. He had hardly begun when the teacher interrupted with an emphatic, “No!” He started over and again the teacher thundered, “No!” Humiliated, Henry sat down.

The next boy rose to recite and had just begun when the teacher shouted, “No!” This student, however, kept on with the recitation until he completed it. As he sat down, the teacher replied, “Very good!”

Henry was irritated. ”I recited just as he did,” he complained to the teacher.

But the instructor replied, “It is not enough to know your lesson, you must be sure. When you allowed me to stop you, it meant that you were uncertain. If the world says, ‘No!’ it is your business to say, ‘Yes!’ and prove it.

The world will say, ‘No!’ in a thousand ways.

‘No! You can’t do that.’
‘No! You are wrong.’
‘No! You are too old.’
‘No! You are too young.’
‘No! You are too weak.’
‘No! It will never work.’
‘No! You don’t have the education.’
‘No! You don’t have the background.’
‘No! You don’t have the money.’
‘No! It can’t be done.’

And each ‘No!’ you hear has the potential to erode your confidence bit by bit until you quit all together.

Though the world says, ‘No!’ to you today, you should be determined to say, ‘Yes!’ and prove it! ”

Author: Steve Goodier

Love Life#11

Love Life#11

Faith – Firm believe even though the thing is not yet happen

Trust – Totally believe in ability of someone or something

Hope – A feeling of expectation and desire for a certain thing to happen

Faith, Trust and Hope play an important role in our life.

They are like the nutrients,

which nurture and lift up our life,

to a greater level which we could not imagine.

They are like the lubricants,

which nourish the dryness of our life,

to be blossomed with joy and laugh.

They are like the catalyst,

push us to move despite the troubles,

toward a victorious life.

Why not we start from today, to learn to embrace them into our life,

to live an awesome LIFE.

Let’s Love Life together. Cheers!

Tips for a beautiful LIFE

 

  • Take a 10-30 minute walk every day and while you walk, smile.
     
  • Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day.
     
  • When you wake up in the morning complete the following statement, “My purpose is to … today.”
     
  • Live with the 3 E’s: Energy, Enthusiasm, Empathy, and the 3 F’s: Faith, Family, Friends.
     
  • Spend more time with people over the age of 70 and under the age of 6.
     
  • Dream more while you are awake.
     
  • Try to make at least three people smile each day.
     
  • Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn, pass all your tests. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
     
  • Smile and laugh more. It will keep the energy vampires away.
     
  • Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
     
  • Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
     
  • Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
     
  • You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagreements.
     
  • Make peace with your past, so it won’t mess up the present.
     
  • Don’t compare your life with others’. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
     
  • Burn the candles, use the nice sheets. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
     
  • No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
     
  • Forgive everyone for everything.
     
  • What other people think of you is none of your business.
     
  • Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
     
  • However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
     
  • Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will stay in touch.
     
  • Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful, or joyful.
     
  • The best is yet to come… Believe.
     
  • No matter how you feel, get up, dress up, and show up.
     
  • Do the right thing!
     
  • Call your family often.
     
  • Each night before you go to bed complete the following statements: “I am thankful for…” – “Today I accomplished…”
     
  • Remember that you are too blessed to be stressed.
     
  • Enjoy the ride. Remember that this is not Disney World and you certainly don’t want a fast pass. Make the most of it and enjoy the ride.

Author Unknown
Story submitted by John C. 

Love Life#10

Love Life#10

Do you believe there is power in positivity?

I do believe.

The power here doesn’t mean supernatural or extraordinary power,
it simply means the strength to endure in times of trouble.

Maybe you will wonder how does it works?

Well, it starts with our thinking.

A positive thought carries influence and same goes to negative thought.

The influence will be reflected on our action, and changes in action will change our circumstances.

Positive thought is like nutrition, which nurture our body.

Negative thought is like poison, which rotten our body.

If we want our body to be healthier, then we need to have nutrition.

Same, if we want our life to be better, we need to have positive thought.

The world says your are weak, positivity says you are strong.

The world says you should give up, positivity says you should try one more time.

The world says it’s impossible, positivity says you are possible.

The world says your idea is bad, positivity says your idea is good, let give it a chance to happen.

The world says there is no hope, positivity says the hope is awaiting
you.

The world says you can’t change the world, positivity says you could do some difference to the world.

The world says your dream is silly, positivity says no dream is silly, it’s a matter of you dare to dream or not.

Posiitivity doesn’t change the things, but it changes you in order to change the things.

Hence, let’s practise to think positively, and you can make a difference in your life.

Let’s Love Life together. Cheers!

Love Life#8

Love Life#8

When was the last time you did something for the first time?

When was the last time you moved out your comfort zone to strive for something you really want?

When was the last time you did something for extra miles without complaining?

When was the last time you helped someone without expecting any return?

When was the last time you took down your mask and truly be yourselves?

When was the last time you gave thank for the life and the things you are having now?

It’s okay to have ‘when was the last time’ questions in life, but if too often it does simply mean your life is getting wrong.
Get some time to really think about these questions and try to answer them.

Once you answer them with action, your life will change.

Let’s Love Life together. Cheers!

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